Wednesday, February 01, 2006

The King Kong Theory

So the big monkey movie got some academy nods! Not surprising, Supa heard the visuals and CGI effects were stunning. She hasn't peeped it yet, on account of she just can't sit 3 plus hours in a theatre no matter how entertaining said flic is supposed to be. She'll catch it on dvd, when she can watch it like, over the entire weekend.

But never mind the movie, some of the Supa Friends have been discussing and debating what we've pegged as the "King Kong Theory."

Which is: Similar to the King Kong archetype, women want and are aroused by a man who can SIMULTANEOUSLY (a) be loving, gentle, attentive, and nurturing toward us, AND (b) drop a muthafucker and/or handle a threatening situation with a quickness whenever necessary to protect us, themselves, loved ones, and/or humanity in general.

Case in point: Awhile back, Supa was on the phone bein all sweet and coy with CSJ one evening, while they were deciding where they should go to have drinks and chill. CSJ then runs down the haps of his stressful week, including how he ended up breaking his hand and being strapped with a cast as the result of having to put the lights out on some belligerent passenger on his train. (his employer is MTA). And after listening intently on how the whole thing went down, Supa realized....she wanted to fuck him immediately. Like, poste haste. It's the testosterone factor, man. In controlled non-lethal doses, it's so fucking sexy.

So in effect, the King Kong theory, and the nice guy vs. thug phenomenon are closely related. But those old "nice guys finish last" and "women only want bad boys" theories are a bit outdated, because it puts forth that women have to choose between one or the other, which isn't accurate...we want both. We want the THUG/INTELLECTUAL hybrid.

And that doesn't mean a fella can't be a nice guy - what he can't be is a wimp. And not merely in the physical sense...he doesn't have to be built like King Kong and go annihalate a city. (Note: I'm no way am I advocating the overblown hyper-masculine fake bravado type shit, either. 'Cause that's definitely wack.)

What the Supa Friends collective agreed on, was that we desire a brotha who's his own man, comfortable enough with his manhood not to have to prove it in wack ill-fated ways, YET unwilling to be pushed around and/or disrespected. Just basically, not be a sucka.

And knowing how to take down a trangressor with a pair of steel toes/Tims, the ability to be raw in the event of hand-to-hand combat, and packing and/or having access to some mid-level heat never hurts. (like my boy Napolean says, "you've gotta have some skills...")

Miss Ahmad once mentioned, her ideal man is a thug/rocket scientist combination. That's always been my ideal type - Mad intellect, rounded out with some key thug elements. One of my celebrity crushes has always been Larenz, 'cause he was:

Darius Lovehall



AND O-Dog.


AND kinda cute/thuggish in Biker Boyz.



And was a-good-black-man-gone-insane in Dead Presidents..



Feel me? A thug poet, with a beautiful mind, knows how to treat his Queen, and possesses the inherent ability to inflict mayhem if it ever comes down to it.

What ya'll think??

And ladies, who would be your favorite thug/intellectual mix? (you can list one guy, or two guys who represent each dynamic...)

19 comments:

Miss Ahmad said...

I think now that I'm grown I have learned to appreciate more types of men. The Thug/Rocket Scientist will always be my favorite...like this biologist I know who raises Pit Bulls! He's smart as hell, handsome, rugged, and can handle himself in any situation.

I think that the bad boy thing becomes somewhat of a waste now that i'm in my 30's. I guess because it's easier to see now that bad can just mean bad. They got commitment issues, they wanna be pimps, they got mamma issues, baby mamma issues..not so good.

My dad is the "Nice" guy, works hard, takes care of his family, no drama, but knows how to protect his family. That's enough for me!

My dream man would be a mix of Paul Beatty, and Adawale from Lost though..if I can dream:-)

i over posted...sorry!

Supa said...

I hear ya, Miss Ahmad. It's kinda hard to limit a brotha down to his thug vs. nice guy potentials, especially when so many other preferences, compatabilities, issues, etc. also come into the mix...

A sista can always have her ideal, though.... :)

Your pops sounds like the perfect combo.

Supa said...

Another of my pics would be a Denzel/Nas combo....

That Girl Tam said...

YAY...I got me a thug/intellect! I know secretly some of these bloggin chics that read my page are jealous! HAHAHAHAH!!

Mack is a straight GANGSTA!! When we met, I thought he was cute, but when he opened his mouth, immediately I knew he was all HOOD. Then I found out he was a straight computer geek...I would've NEVER EVER EVER guessed that! Now he's an engineer for a manufacturing firm - but GANGSTA! HAHAHA...Funny thing is, he reads all the damn time and sends me these emails about home mortgage interest rates and Greenspan shit...I might as well be reading Chinese BACKWARDS. Even when he's talking to me about it I get this glassy look in my eyes (cuz lawd knows I don't know WHAT THE FUCK HE'S TALKIN ABOUT!!!)

Dang, I'mma have to break him off sumthin special while we're in Vegas this weekend for being the BOMB!! HAHAHAHAHA Great post!

Supa said...

Tam - how could he NOT be gangsta with a name like MACK! lol :)

Go freak him extra special, honey. Sounds like he's earned it. :)

That Girl Tam said...

hehehe...no doubt!!

Hey grew up in Inglewood...just HOOD...

Supa said...

Inglewooooood! I came up in The Wood. Mack's all right.

Supa said...

Inglewooooood! I came up in The Wood. Mack's all right.

DPM said...

There ya'll go again. Women want the thug but with no pimp, the nerd with no comic books.
I can't tell you how many times my mama raising values have backfired on me. Yet, I can't shake them from my personality if I eanestly tried to.
I can't count the amount of women I've respectfully abstained from in order to get to know them better and they got impatient and went and F^%$ed somebody else. (My favorite one: my virgin ex-girlfriend from high school who returned home from college in the summer to tell me that she wasn't a virgin anymore and that we could "do it" now (?).
Maybe I aint found the right one yet--obviously.
Meanwhile I'll keep my pimp game tight and keep my Spiderman subscription...

Supa said...

Aww, DPM! A sista didn't mean to infer you couldn't be raised right and/or have no values!! We appreciate that in a brotha. But a lil' swagga is cute. :)

A nerd with an "edge" is cool too. No pimpin' tho. :) lol

re: Abstaining to get to know a sista - 'aint nothing wrong with that. But it's a delicate balance...move TOO fast, and it's too soon..move TOO slow, then you enter the "friend zone."

I know. We womens can be complicated...

Supa said...

LOL. Why are you so stupid?? Up those meds, homie.

mrpunchcar said...

how about someone who just starts some crazy shit? like today i just walked up to this person and smacked the shit out of them for no apparent reason. she looked like she was about to say something slick anyway so i just smacked her in the mouth before she got the chance. does that turn you on supasista? lol.

Supa said...

i'm talking to u, punchcar. don't have me put you on blast again. :) I'ma call u 2nite. Promise...

Dizzy said...

Interesting topic 4sho! Your thug/intellectual sounds on the same level of what men want lady/freak! I guess the gender thing is probably a lil more twisted than we can account for...but I definitely feel where you're coming from.

onecoolhoney said...

Aw shit, I'm affected like that too by men who got them *hands.* Um, that means maybe I might not need to go see the super-sexy SA compete in a jiu jitsu tournament tomorrow, huh. Cuz you know the brotha got black belts in Aikido and Tae Kwon do. uh oh uh oh hehehehe

jameil1922 said...

"In controlled non-lethal doses" lololol hilarious. i love the testosterone, too, but i can't get w/the thug thing. i need a dude w/a job!!! a legal one!! thugs stand on corners. i'm straight on that!!

Supa said...

Oh, no Jameil! A job/career is mandatory. I'm not talking about TRIFLING!! That's not sexy....

lol

Supa said...

OCS - you know you're gonna be all on SA's JOCK :)

Viperteq said...

Man, I'm glad I found this post. I jsut got through ranting about why women feel getting with a nice dude as playing it safe (long story). Anyway, you kinda made some things clear to me. Now I understand that not every woman is enlightened as you and your girls, but it's good to know that not every women wants what being pushed on BET right now. Cool. keep doing you.....