Monday, August 07, 2006

Puerto Rico, Next Installment!

Get caught up on the Puerto Rico intro here:

So, as mentioned, Supa was delightfully present for the traditional Hindu wedding ceremony of Something Special's cool homie. And this was really cool: A relative of the bride-to-be hooked Supa up with her first henna tattoo (always wanted one). A very intricate process which took about an hour to complete, just for one hand. Peep...

she kept tellin' Supa, "you gotta hold still!!"

The final design. Must wait at least an hour for it to set and dry. The intensity and color of the final product varies for each individual, based on body temperature and absorption of the henna.

This is the end result after the henna is scraped off. Cool, hunh. Lasts for about two weeks.

THEN, there was the actual wedding!!! Wow. I'll post more pics, but right now I have a few flimsy ones that don't hardly do it justice. It was beautiful. (And hot. We were outside..)

Naturally, I mildly frustrated a certain someone because I had wardrobe issues before the wedding, and therefore was running a little late....(Clutch the pearls! Supa runs late??)

Yet all went well; the ceremony was spectacular albeit a lil' long, but that's how they do...I'm sayin', our most recent ancestors gathered family around then jumped the broom, and it was a done deal, but hey! lol. There is something very profound in a wedding ritual rooted in tradition; whether it's cultural, religious, or familial.

The reception was as equally spectacular. (no pics - except the one above, of the reception table) Supa was too busy absorbing the atmosphere, dining, toasting, laughing, dancing, etc. (translation: Being Grown-n- Sexy!)

So tell me: Do you get all weepy & emotional at weddings? I know this question ranges VASTLY depending on if you're a man or a woman, and if you've been married, are currently married, or never been married. Holla back, I'm curious!

Over the last zillion weddings I've attended over the last few years - Supa's thoughts are usually: Awwww, God bless 'em. How sweet. Wonder if later on they'll be serving red wine or white at the reception.....chicken or beef....I'm hungry...
Exception: Supa did cry like a uncontrollable baby during one of her best-est Supa Friend's wedding - they are my favorite couple. So maybe emotional attachment and witnessing the actual love affair unfold has a lot to do with it - for me)

Next Installment: Does Supa get lost in the rainforest?? Stay tuned, Blogger Fam!


The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

First in line BITCHES!!!

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

I've always wanted to get a henna tattoo...a lot less pain than the real thing!! But I'mma buckle down and Ms. Glamazon is gonna hold my hand while I get my first REAL tattoo (fannin myself before I pass out at the mere thought of the pain).

I love weddings. I get weepy when I see two people in-love vowing to spend their lives together...I mean, regardless of the divorce rate (hehehe) and having the exact SAME thoughts that you've had...I still get emotional. I cried all thru mine (bof'uv'em)

Ja said...

Umm I didn't like it the first time around.

I'm so jaded.


bunny said...

Those sappy ass cliched love songs get me each and every time. Like Luther's "Here and Now' damn I'm like pass the tissues and don't let "Evergreen" come on, ooh boy. The past few weddings I've attended, I've had the pleasure (NOT) of being in them and the only thing on my mind was, I wish they would hurry this thing along cause this girdle is pinching me and my feet hurt like fiery hell.

Other than that yeah I guess I get emotional at weddings too!

Anonymous said...

“I have great hopes that we shall love each other all our lives as much
as if we never married at all.”

“If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married.”

"Any intelligent woman who reads the marriage contract, and then goes into it, deserves all the consequences."

“Marriage means commitment. Of course, so does insanity.”

“You can never be happily married to another until you get a divorce from yourself. Successful marriage demands a certain death to self.”

African girl, American world said...

I'm with you (when am I not?) only gets me when I know the people saying I do and I've been on the journey with them....otherwise I'm trying to get my drink on at the open bar and thinking thoughts like I wonder how long they'll make it.
so sad....

Supa said...

Okay, LOL at all ya'lls asses!

You know...I've thought about this. I'm as sentimental as they come, and yet I don't get emotional at weddings...anymore.

Granted it's very encouraging to witness a couple making those vows. But longevity is key in my mind - forget THE WEDDING DAY.

So, you know when I start cryin? When that same couple is inviting us over to dinner 3,5, or 10 years later and I still see them together & interacting lovingly with their bond still intact. (despite the challenges)

THAT'S THE BEAUTIFUL SHIT worth crying over!!!

'Cause I hate to say, I've seen far too many unhappy marriages and/or weddings dissolved in 1 year or less.

You're right Mwabs - sad!!!

P said...


I don't like the patterns on your hands.

You feel mae?

Supa said...

P: What tha problem, P. It's a henna design. Talk to me.

Nexgrl said...

I am not a fan of weddings. I have only been to 5 as an adult. Two of them were Hindi Ceremonies, one of which was in India. I wore a Sari to the one in India and a Langa to the other( I was a participant.)

Nexgrl said...

I meant Hindu

Miss Ahmad said...

umm when my grandmother, and baby sister got married i was moved tremdously. especially since i lost my grandmother not long after she married.

usually our family weddings and funerals are the two times we all get together and i just love my family a whole bunch so i'll take any excuse to see them, party with them and eat with them.

most of my married friends are doing well in marriage, but none of them made me cry...only family!

Single Ma said...

I love weddings! I'm amazed at how much people spend on one day. For the most part, my emotions are in tact. Well, at least until the bride walks in, then I'm a big water bucket. When they start all the other crap, I'm bored to death and start wondering if they'll serve cocktails while the wedding party takes pictures.

Umm Sup, I'm with P. The final picture of your hand scared me. It looks umm...I don't know...

The Hindu wedding sounds beautiful though. Girl, you can tell a damn story! And your pics just flow right along. I love your writing style! Lookin forward to Part III.

Phat_In_Phoenix said...

I just celebrated my 9 year anniv & I have to say, that yes it is hard to keep everything fresh and new. Routine takes over & you have to re-connect. My hubby & I vacation for 1-2 wks every year in remote locations. No family, no friends, no phones, no kids, no internet, no nothing. We find a place to remember who we are together and focus on where we want to go...Oh & have lots of hot butt naked freaky sex...

Marriage is a rollercoaster..up...down..up...down...but when you decide to take the ride, u just don't jump off unless it's stopped.

So the key to a happy marriage is VACATION...LOL!!!!!

African girl, American world said...

Amen phat_in_Phoenix. Amen.

rollercoaster....perfect way to describe it. They key is not jumping off. I need a collection plate after that one :)

I will add that the key to a happy marriage is a couple vacation and a single vacation so you can get to miss each other :)

We're at year 8 and at the 10 year mark I plan on having a renewal ceremony so I can mean what I'm sying and not say just cause it is what is said.

One episode of Bridezilla and you know it is all about the wedding day and nothing about the relationship.

1969 said...

I love weddings. I am an Event Planner so I love to witness the details and to pour over every nuance of the ceremony and presentation. I like to see something done that is special and unique.

I don't get weepy at the ceremony unless I know the couple and what brought them to that place.

Like everyone said (and I like the roller coaster analogy), it has it's ups and downs. The key is to hang on. :)

Anonymous said...

I do not cry at weddings. Tho, I might cry when my mom gets married.

Oh, and I might cry when/if I tie the knot.

Question: Is crying between the bride and groom in American culture expected? What do you think when you see the man crying and NOT the woman???

I always think girly's not into dude that much...guess I'm biased b/c if a man didn't cry, I would not think the same.

Anonymous said...

@ 1969 -

So if you want to get stronger, you'd better not let go.
You gotta hold on longer, if you want your love to grow.
Gotta stick together - hand in glove...
Hold on tight; don't fight. Hang on to your love!

That woman knows how to speak of the real-deal when it comes love.

Aly Cat 121 said...

Hi, I really like your blog spot. And the wedding did seem very beautiful. my best friend had a "semi" traditional indian wedding and her mother put "mehndi" on our hands the night before too. And I cry at every wedding, even if I don't even know the people getting married. LOL

"N" Search of Ecstasy said...

I got emotional at my sisters' weddings but not at others I've been to. I haven't been married, so I think that does play a role in it. If I had been married before or were currently married rather, I wouldn't be so sappy.

Phat_In_Phoenix said...

oh yeah...that's the other key, going away alone. I travel as often as i can. get the hell away from him!

there are those sick bastards who like to stay up under each other 24/7. they white. Sista's take time 2 breath. if u think he fuckin everytime he walk out the door, why be w/ him? Move on! there's a gazillon dicks out there.

Sorry...dealing w/ some of my girlfriends issues...what's the topic again?

obifromsouthlondon said...

went to a good friend's wedding a few years ago. hindu guy. the whole thing, range of dishes, setup was fantastic. how it should be done (if it don't ruin you financially first)

weep at weddings? I leave that for the ladies. on the real I dread weddings cos my moms is always on my back reminding me:

"marry that damn girl nigga!" :)