The King Kong Theory

So the big monkey movie got some academy nods! Not surprising, Supa heard the visuals and CGI effects were stunning. She hasn't peeped it yet, on account of she just can't sit 3 plus hours in a theatre no matter how entertaining said flic is supposed to be. She'll catch it on dvd, when she can watch it like, over the entire weekend.

But never mind the movie, some of the Supa Friends have been discussing and debating what we've pegged as the "King Kong Theory."

Which is: Similar to the King Kong archetype, women want and are aroused by a man who can SIMULTANEOUSLY (a) be loving, gentle, attentive, and nurturing toward us, AND (b) drop a muthafucker and/or handle a threatening situation with a quickness whenever necessary to protect us, themselves, loved ones, and/or humanity in general.

Case in point: Awhile back, Supa was on the phone bein all sweet and coy with CSJ one evening, while they were deciding where they should go to have drinks and chill. CSJ then runs down the haps of his stressful week, including how he ended up breaking his hand and being strapped with a cast as the result of having to put the lights out on some belligerent passenger on his train. (his employer is MTA). And after listening intently on how the whole thing went down, Supa realized....she wanted to fuck him immediately. Like, poste haste. It's the testosterone factor, man. In controlled non-lethal doses, it's so fucking sexy.

So in effect, the King Kong theory, and the nice guy vs. thug phenomenon are closely related. But those old "nice guys finish last" and "women only want bad boys" theories are a bit outdated, because it puts forth that women have to choose between one or the other, which isn't accurate...we want both. We want the THUG/INTELLECTUAL hybrid.

And that doesn't mean a fella can't be a nice guy - what he can't be is a wimp. And not merely in the physical sense...he doesn't have to be built like King Kong and go annihalate a city. (Note: I'm no way am I advocating the overblown hyper-masculine fake bravado type shit, either. 'Cause that's definitely wack.)

What the Supa Friends collective agreed on, was that we desire a brotha who's his own man, comfortable enough with his manhood not to have to prove it in wack ill-fated ways, YET unwilling to be pushed around and/or disrespected. Just basically, not be a sucka.

And knowing how to take down a trangressor with a pair of steel toes/Tims, the ability to be raw in the event of hand-to-hand combat, and packing and/or having access to some mid-level heat never hurts. (like my boy Napolean says, "you've gotta have some skills...")

Miss Ahmad once mentioned, her ideal man is a thug/rocket scientist combination. That's always been my ideal type - Mad intellect, rounded out with some key thug elements. One of my celebrity crushes has always been Larenz, 'cause he was:

Darius Lovehall

AND O-Dog.

AND kinda cute/thuggish in Biker Boyz.



And was a-good-black-man-gone-insane in Dead Presidents..



Feel me? A thug poet, with a beautiful mind, knows how to treat his Queen, and possesses the inherent ability to inflict mayhem if it ever comes down to it.

What ya'll think??

And ladies, who would be your favorite thug/intellectual mix? (you can list one guy, or two guys who represent each dynamic...)